Men...dress up as women....to be with....hmm... o_O

I have nothing against gay people, I think that it is their decision and everyone has to live their own life. HOWEVER, I was talking with my dad yesterday and the topic came up: why do men do drag or why do men like men if they are only going to dress up like a woman to be with a man? I was watching videos of different men who dress up in drag and then I watched a video about a girl who had two gay men do her makeup and hair like drag makeup. She concluded her video with "it is harder for a woman to dress up in drag and pretend to be a Man pretending to be a woman". It has always kind of confused me on how men act like women. Although in my opinion, women do not act like how gay men portray us. They go all out. A little too flamboyant. However, my point is....your a man, but you want to be a woman....dress up like a woman with clown makeup on and you like men o_O confuses the shit outta me. BUT TO EACH HIS OWN!!!!! Gay men and women are just like everyone else. They live their life. I do not see color or sex as an issue, just curious about things. I had to get that off of my chest.

The Days after.

I turned 21 on Saturday.....I was soooooo anxious to show my ID to the whole world and the funny thing is I haven't been checked! lol It feels good to order a drink and they don't ID you but I was sooooo looking forward to it. So when I bought my first bottle of liquor I was so excited to show my ID. I want to say one thing: Thank you to everyone for all of the birthday wishes. Most of all I want to thank my mother and father for all that they did for me on my special day. They went all out, they got me cute clothes, a beautiful cake and threw me a nice gathering. I know my brother doesn't read my blog however, I want to thank him for the jeans he bought me. Family is so amazing, they go out of their way for me....there is nothing better than family. My boyfriend came out as well, I love him for taking time to spend with me. We had a wonderful time. Jasmine, thank you for the gifts and your presence!!!!!! love you all!!!! And last but not least, I want to thank everyone for all of the birthday wishes, gifts and cards. Peace and Love to all. P.S.S, DO NOT DRINK UNDERAGE!!!!! IT IS SO MUCH BETTER WHEN YOU ARE 21 AND ABLE TO DRINK WITHOUT THE CHANCE OF GETTING IN TROUBLE!

MY AUNTIE SENT ME A SPECIAL GIFT!!!!!

SOOOOOOO my birthday is tomorrow. July 16th! Yay! I will be 21 years old and I am feelin FA.BO.LO.US! LOL So I went to the store with my dad and when we got home he told me I had something in the mail. Now the first thing that came to mind was "OMG BECKY WHO SENT LITTLE OLE ME SOMETHING IN THE SNAIL MAIL." So I sang my blues clues mail song "heres the mail it never fails it makes me want to wag my tail, when it comes I want to wail...MAILLLLLLL"ok so my auntie Alisa (hey boo how u duurin?) sent me this card and she bought me a drank...yes I am legal! lol ALONG WITH THE BEST CANDY IN THE WHOLLLLLE WORLD! YES...RAZZLES! So Auntie, this is a video shout out! Love you beautiful lady! Thank you for the card, drank, and razzles!!!!

OOTN

So, my birthday is this weekend and I got this beautifullllll mini dress. I love it in a major way and I want to thank my mammy who showed me the dress and I hunted it down and bought it lol. This is the outfit that I will be wearing to the club :-) ENJOY AND WEEP!

How to approach a guy

STOP BEING SHY!!!!!!! Follow these steps because they may just help.

1. INTERACT- No guy likes a woman who will not interact with him or even the people he hangs around. Make it a point to let yourself be known.

2. MAN THE HELL UP!- Get some balls...no not really but sometimes you have to be the force to be reckoned with. You have to step up and tell the dude you like..."You know what, I like you and I thought you should know". Sometimes guys feel like they should be able to take a break and see if a girl can do something daring. No I am not saying go out and....be....the man in the situation....just be BOLD!

3. EYE CONTACT- God gave you those beautiful eyes....bat them and flirt with your eyes. Be sexy, be cute, but be mysterious.

4. BREAK THE ICE- Make a joke and don't be afraid to break the ice with a laugh or two. Guys like personality.

5. WEAR A SEXY COLOR- Yes colors can be sexy. Wear red or something...I am a woman who likes dark colors but a splash of red helps.

6. ALWAYS SMILE. Period.

7. ACT LIKE A WOMAN...THINK LIKE A MAN.

8. BE LADY LIKE IN ALL SITUATIONS- Seriously.....be a lady. You can wear sexy clothes and not look slutty. Not all guys like trashy girls.

BE YOURSELF. AND BE A LITTLE BOLD EVERY NOW AND THEN.

The skin your in...WORK IT!!!!

I am so sorry I haven't been bloggin as much lately, I just have been a little busy trying to get it right and tight for my birthday. lol Anywhooser, I recently read an article about a young lady who's boyfriend has a nice body and her on the other has...she said she had "racks on racks on racks of fat" and because of that she started shying away from sex. In saying that I mean, she would  only do sex positions that she and her boyfriend could not look at her "racks", in doing that she didn't want to feel like a fat woman smothering her skinny man. Let me tell you this ladies if you have a man who is smaller than you and guys if you are big and your woman is smaller than you, guess what...she/he is still there. Obviously she/he loves you enough to not let something as small as being over weight get to them. You see, America has put out this idea that men and women have to be super skinny and tanned with fake everything. That is NOT true. Being yourself is fine, because no matter what someone will love you, someone will look past imperfections, and someone will give you all the TLC you want. If God wanted everyone to be perfectly perfect then everyone would be. However, He made us all different...different skin, shapes, colors, languages, and different everything because if we were all the same and followed these strict guidelines of perfection...we would be boring. Embrace who you are and love the skin you are in, because nobody can tell you that you aren't good enough. Because to the world...you may be one person...but to one person you may be the world. It isn't possible to enjoy sex when you're so busy playing hide-and-seek the pleasure can't be found. Here's the secret that'll take you from being a spectator who's grimacing at her body to a participant who's experiencing her body: Be a vehicle for pleasure rather than an object to be looked at. That's my fancy way of saying, "Be active in bed." Move around, stroke left, lick right, bend low. The more proactive you are in bed the less reactive you'll be in your mind. It's hard to concentrate on any thought, let alone negative ones, when you're actually doing something you enjoy. Laying too still or waiting for him to make the next move is an invitation to spectatoring. Move so you can go from being a sight to see to a force to be felt. Free up....get loose...and most of all enjoy yourself. If you like it in the downward facing dog position....DO IT! Your man or woman will love you regardless!!!! Love your body...EMBRACE THAT BEAUTIFUL THANG. BECAUSE IT'S YO THANG, DO WHAT YA WANNA DO, I CANT TELL YA WHO TO SOCK IT TO! :-) I <3 YOU, I <3 ME....SO <3 YOURSELF!!!!!

Hot summer clutches to die for!

So summer time is all about showing off that body you have been working out all winter, showing a little skin, cute heels, amazing dresses, accessories, and every girl needs the perfect clutch. It is too hot to wear a huge purse, back packs, and anything else you have to drape over your body. So, I am gonna show you the clutches that get my approval :-)
First off all of these clutches are expensive lol however I will put more reasonable priced clutches. ENJOY!

Pantera Lizard clutch $475

Givenchy Bahia Eel clutch $1,370

BCBG Maxazira Harlow envelope clutch $68

Derek Lam Beatrice satchel clutch $850

Marc Jacobs Luisa clutch $1,995

Asos Portfolio envelope clutch $35

Alexander McQueen De Manta clutch $695

Forever 21 $12.80





Aldo $35

Aldo $34.98

Aldo $40

Aldo $39.98

Aldo $19.98

Aldo $35

Aldo $35

Aldo $45

So I hope you enjoy this seasons hottest clutches!!!! Maybe even pick one up. I am loving the Alexander McQueen clutch out of all of them. If I could...I would definitely get that bad boy! lol Have a beautiful day!!!!

First Kiss? No Biggie!!!!

When I had my first kiss I thought it was kind of special, it didn't have any specific meaning but to some young ladies the first kiss is pure innocence meeting love and explosion. I am here to give you 5 tips that will drive your guy bonkers and wanting more!!! The perfect kiss is all about two things: Connection and comfort. No matter how much you are into your dude, kissing can be the most awkward thing to engage in. So these five steps will do a number of things, they will help you be more confident, they will calm your nerves and the most important...they will impress your guy...leaving him wanting more!
**** Numero Uno: RELAX!!!!! Relaxing your entire body and taking a deep breath will make things way easier. You cannot be unsure of yourself when you are about to kiss the guy you are dating, being tense will only make you more uncomfortable. Just start off slowly...and let it go from there. Don't forget...take a deep breath.
***2. IT'S ALL ABOUT THE MOTION IN THE OCEAN (RHYTHM) LADIES!!!  Please...whatever you do, don't suffocate him by putting your tongue down his throat when you are starting off with a closed mouth kiss. Remember...start off slow. Think of it like this: if you were acting super hyper when someone was acting...calm, you wouldn't be able to connect with each other. Pay lots of attention to his body language and how he is using his tongue to connect with him. key word...CONNECT! LOL And if you decide to change up the pace...do it SLOWLY.
***3. CONTROL YOUR TONGUE!!!! Again...shoving your tongue in his mouth is a big no-no! Who wants to have their first kiss like that? Do it slowly, introduce your tongue to his, and if you cant tell how it is done...follow his lead. Get a little passionate, but don't start crying lol.
***4. CHANGE IT UP!!!! Don't be afraid to explore a little, add a little variety to your make out session. Explore his face...no I'm not saying lick his face like a dog, don't lick his nose, or his eyes or bite him aggressively...that's weird. What I mean is, gently tug his bottom lip or softly nibble on his ear (no don't eat it...NIBBLE...lol, like only if its clean though.) PAY ATTENTION to his body language, he will let you know if he enjoys it.
***5. HANDLE YOUR LIPS WITH CARE. What I mean by this is take care of your lips, I am not saying do a sugar scrub on them everyday or don't go slathering Vaseline on your lips. Just use lip balm before hand, because I know for a fact that some guys don't like glitter or gloss on their lips. A little flavor is cool but go easy on the glitter and gloss, there is nothing worse than a sticky kiss due to that .99 cent beauty store gloss. Dry, cracked lips can interfere with the smoothness of the kiss.
***I know I said 5 but here is one more. MAKE SURE YO BREATH DON'T STANK! PERIOD! GUM, MOUTH WASH, A TOOTH BRUSH, A PEPPER MINT, A HALL (I'M KIDDING)....MAKE SURE YO BREATH IS RIGHT! AND HIS! LOL